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Sandy, Utah
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Ways to Give Support to Your Child
Do not give directions to players from the sideline. Your child loves encouragement, but sideline coaching may confuse him and may be different than what the coach is teaching.
Being a good team member means supporting your team even when things are not going well. Teach your child not to give up on himself or the team. Excellence takes time.
Allow players to "safely" make mistakes without criticism. They usually know when they make a mistake, if not, let the coach tell them. Give them room to learn from their mistakes.
Cheer for the whole team and not just your own child. Encouragement from a respected adult can go a long way to help a child feel good about himself.
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Teach Your Son or Daughter to be a Good Sport by Example
Here are some tips from Rick Wolff, the author of Good Sports, The Concerned Parent's Guide to Competitive Youth Sports
1. Follow the Golden Rule of sports competition: Treat opposing players, coaches, and refs the way you'd like to be treated.
2. Respond immediately when any player gets hurt--and stop the game. Show kids that attending to an injured player is more important than the game.
3. Cheer for your child and his team to play well. Don't cheer against the opponent.
4. Do not tolerate trash-talking or taunting by any player.
5. You can disagree with a ref or an umpire, but don't use abusive or obscene language, don't embarrass the official, your child, or yourself, and don't make a scene.
6. Respect an opponent's abilities, and appluad the opposing team when it makes a good play.
Ten Commandments of Parental Behavior
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Talk about the other kids on the team--indeed, on both teams--in the same manner you would want other parents to talk about your child. This is the golden rule applied to sports. Watching kids sports tends to be a social affair. When you're making conversation on the sideline with your friends and neighbors, think about what you're saying before you actually say it. To always be on the safe side, only voice praise for the other children. That way, you'll never go wrong.
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It's nice to give the coach a pat on the back when he or she wins. It's even nicer when you give the coach a pat on the back after a loss. Remember that the vast majority of coaches are volunteers who are sacrificing their own time to help you kid. So give them a well-deserved salute, especially when their team hasn't fared well that day.
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Don't hesitate to give the ref, umpire or official a pat on the back, either. As you might have guessed, refs and umps are people, too. And they like when parents and fans acknowledge their on-field efforts as well. Why don't you lead the way?
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Remind your child that it's the effort that counts. We know all the kids want to win. That's a given. But we also know that for every winning team, there's also a loser. Be prepared to cushion your child's disappointment after a loss by pointing out that he or she played hard and put forth a tremendous effort.
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Avoid the P.G.A., the Postgame Analysis. When the game is over and your child climbs back into your car, avoid at all costs the detailed, excruciating postgame analysis of everything he did right and wrong. Just let him chill out, savor the fun of having played, and relax. The absolute worst time for "friendly criticism" is immediately after the game.
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Smile. A lot. Kid's sports are about having fun, and because kids take their behavioral cues from you, try at least to look like you're enjoying yourself.
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If you aren't a "good sport" at the games, the kids won't be either. This should be self-evident. If you set a pattern of being a sideline loudmouth who likes to yell and scream at the ref, coach or opposing team, don't be surprised when your kids start copying your behavior. You will have only yourself to blame.
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Take the time to learn the rules of the game. A lot of kids thses days are playing sports you may not be familiar with. So if you don't know the rules of the game, why don't you and your child learn them together?
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If you must make noise at the games, shout only praise and encouragement. If you're a screamer and yeller, make certain that when you open your mouth, you're only pouring forth cheerful encouragement for your child's team. There's never any place for derogatory, snide or sarcastic comments at kids' games.
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Above all, be there for your children. Support them, praise them, and let them know you can always be counted on for unconditional love, regardless of the final score.
from Rick Wolff, the author of Good Sports, The Concerned Parent's Guide to Competitive Youth Sports
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