American Solution FC: Parent Rules

Great Parents make the Greatest Fans!!
Gametime things to remember.

The following items below are considered our 'parent code of conduct.' When followed the games are more enjoy for all. If you have any questions let Patrick or I know.

1. Let the coaches’ coach. If you are telling your son or daughter — or any other player for that matter — to do something different from what their coach is telling them, you create distraction and confusion. It is very unnerving for many young players to try and perform difficult tasks on the field on the spur of the moment when parents are yelling at them from the sidelines. Let the kids play. If they have been well coached, they should know what to do on the field. If they make a mistake, chances are they know and will learn from it. Cheer like crazy, do yell "great hustle!" or "Man on!" Don't yell "Goalies out SHOOT!!" or "Pass it to So-And-So!" Walking up and down all game long along the sidelines, following the play, is unnerving to players and totally unnecessary— particularly so if you are trying to yell out instructions to various players, including your own son or daughter. It is likely embarrassing to the player/players involved and simply counterproductive. If you want to coach, obtain your coaching certification and then apply for a job. If you are good we will hire you.

2. Do not discuss the play of specific young players in front of other parents or your player. Negative comments and attitudes are hurtful and totally unnecessary. They kill parent harmony which is essential to youth team success. Speak to the positive qualities of a player. Make positive comments from the sideline. Be encouraging. Young athletes do not need to be reminded constantly about their perceived errors or mistakes. Their coaches will instruct them, either during the game or at half-time, and during practices. You can often see a young player make that extra effort when they hear encouraging words.

3. Do your level best not to complain about your son or daughter’s coaches to other parents. Once that starts, it is like a disease that spreads. Before you know it, parents are talking constantly in a negative way behind a coach’s back. If you have what you truly feel is a legitimate concern with your child’s coach arrange an appointment to meet privately, away from a soccer field.

4. Avoid making any negative comments about players on the other team. These are youngsters, not adults who are being paid to play professionally. 

5 Keep interaction with parents on the other team as healthy and positive as possible. Who’s kidding who? You want your child’s team to win. So do they. But that should not make us take leave of our senses, especially our common sense. Be courteous ‘till it hurts; avoid the ‘tit for tat’ syndrome. Parents on the ‘other’ team are not the enemy. Neither are the boys or girls on the other team. We should work to check any negative feelings before we hit the pitch.

6. The easiest thing to do in the youth sports world is criticize the referees. Oh, there are times when calls are missed, absolutely. And that can, unfortunately, directly affect the outcome of a contest. That said, by and large those who officiate at youth soccer games are hardly over-compensated, and give it an honest effort. At worst, they at least try to be fair and objective. On that note, outbursts from parents on the sideline made toward the referees only signal to our on children on the field that they can blame the refs for anything that goes wrong. Blaming others is not a formula for success in sports. Yelling out comments such as “Good call, ref” or “Thanks ref” may only serve to alienate an official. The ref always assumes they made the proper call, that’s why they made it. Trying to show superficial support because the call went ‘your’ way is simply annoying to the officials, and to anyone within earshot. We all feel things and are apt to be tempted to say things in the ‘heat of the moment’. But we don’t excuse athletes for doing inappropriate things in the ‘heat of the moment’ (there are penalties, suspensions, etc.) so we should apply similar standards to our own sideline behavior. Quickly check yourself and ask: Will I be proud of what I am about to say or do when I reflect on it tomorrow? Please dont do it. The coaches will handle the referee or the other coach. Thats why they have a coaches pass.

7. The parking lot is not the time to ‘fan the flames’. Whether it is a coach’s decision, a referee’s call, or a comment that was made, let it go. Don’t harass the coach, or an official, or a parent on the other team after the game is over. Go home, relax, and unwind.  Observe the 24 hour rule. Talk positively with your child. The ride home is sometimes as important as the game itself. Make that time a good memory for your son or daughter by discussing as many positives as you can .