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DR. G.'S THE BEST OF 2014

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#1 ALLOW YOUR KIDS TO REGULARLY "EAT" THE BREAKFAST OF CHAMPIONS: FRUSTRATION & DEPRIVATION!

In today's A.D.D., point and click generation, kids are used to getting what they want immediately, with no sweat, frustration or heartache. Given this, they tend to develop the average attention span of a flea!

Unfortunately, becoming a champion wherever your dreams may take you, requires a completely different headset. Champions NEVER become champions overnight. The process is ALWAYS a long, arduous and frustrating one! There are always setbacks, hardships and heartaches! These are the road markers that let you know that you are on the RIGHT path.

If you can't tolerate setbacks, if you don't have the patience to hang in there through multiple failures, disappointments and plateaus, if you can't learn to make frustration and delayed gratification your best friends, then you will NEVER achieve meaningful success!

PARENTS: If you want to help your kids achieve lasting success in their lives both on and off the field, then let them have their frustrations and disappointments! Do NOT rush in and try to make them feel "better" when they have setbacks. Deprivations and disappointments will ultimately make them hungrier, more motivated and stronger! Not immediately getting what they want is actually a GOOD thing for them. NEVER take their frustrations away from them. Making things "easier" for your kids in this way will eventually cripple them and foster their dependency.

Remember, our kids are super resilient and temporary deprivations and disappointments will "feed" them and ultimately fuel their drive towards success and happiness!

#2 BEING A WINNING PARENT

If your son or daughter plays competitive sports, my advice to you is simple: Remember when they were first born and you held them in awe, when they were toddlers and you delighted in every simple discovery and developmental mastery that they progressed through, when you loved them unconditionally without the clutter, over-involvement and distractions of sports and academic performance. When they were that age you wouldn't have dreamed of asking them to perform for your love or approval. You loved them for the amazing miracles that they were.

Love your children in a way that has nothing to do with their sport or how well they do. Do not make them perform for your love. Do not burden them with the responsibility of having to make you happy. Their sport should be just that! THEIR sport! It should be a source of joy and fun for them completely unburdened by the heavy weight of worry that they might be letting you down unless they perform to YOUR EXPECTATIONS!

#3 SHAMING & HUMILIATING ATHLETES IS NOT IN THE JOB DESCRIPTION OF A GOOD COACH!

She had been struggling for months in her performance because she cared too much. She was conscientious, had a great attitude and was an extremely hard worker in practice. She just simply over-pressured herself at competitions to do better, and as a result, always got much too tight to perform her best. At a recent high school competition, after once more putting too much pressure on herself, she had two more disappointing events, and, at the meet's conclusion, in front of all of her teammates and friends, her coach loudly called her out.

"You are not committed to this team. Your effort was unacceptable today. You have disappointed me and let your teammates and captains down! If you don't step it up at our next competition, you will never compete for us again! Now, I want you to apologize to your teammates and especially the captains for letting everyone down and doing so badly!"

By this time, the poor freshman was in tears, humiliated beyond belief! The next day, after some of the girl's teammates had complained to the coach about his harsh treatment of her, he had this to say to the entire team to justify his behavior! "My job is to hold you guys accountable and get on you if you're not committed or giving enough of an effort. If I didn't yell at you and call you out for this, I wouldn't be doing my job!"

SHAMING ATHLETES IS NOT IN THE JOB DESCRIPTION OF A GOOD COACH!

Yelling and embarrassing athletes who have bad performances is demotivating, EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE, and terribly misplaced! Sure, a coach should hold his/her athletes accountable for lackluster effort IN PRACTICE. If an athlete is dogging it, goofing around and not listening, get all over them! That's your job! However, when an athlete falls apart performance-wise in a game/match/race, it is NOT because of lack of effort. It is NOT because they are uncommitted. Athletes rarely if ever have bad performances in competition on purpose!

Bad performances are most often a result, like in this situation, of an athlete over thinking and putting too much pressure on themselves to do well. If you focus too much on outcome or beating a particular opponent, then you will fall apart under pressure. If you as a coach are going to call an athlete out for something, know your athlete, and then have the decency, sensitivity and intelligence to do this in private! Build them up, while you're yelling at them! "You know, you're too good an athlete to be dogging it like that! We need you out there giving a full effort and I know, as your coach, that you can do this!"

#4 THE SECRET TO CHAMPIONSHIP GOAL SETTING

Your goals and dreams should serve one purpose for you. They are meant to be a motivational tool to get you to work harder in practice. If you are using them to threaten yourself or to try to get a higher level of performance out of yourself then you are badly misusing them!

Remember, the "serious" in your sport should be relegated to how hard and how often you work. Your "serious" should drive your work ethic in training and NOTHING ELSE!!! Bring that same "serious" and "now it really counts" way of thinking to a competition with you and you will end of continuing to choke and slump!

#5 YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR PERFORMANCE

Being an athlete is only one part of who you actually are. You are also a son or daughter, big brother or sister, student, mentor, parent, spouse, musician, worker, etc. So what really makes you a winner? Being a great athlete is a very shallow and narrow way to measure whether you’re a winner or not. Who you are as a person in the world, interacting with others is a far more important way to determine your real character and self-worth.

#6 THE TRUE PURPOSE OF SPORTS

If sports should teach us anything of value, it should be a vehicle to teach us to become better individuals. It should teach us to be humble and selfless, to put our own needs behind those of our team. It should teach us to be a good sport, to be honest and to play fair. It should teach us to respect our teammates and especially our opponents, and to see the latter as our partners in a mutual pursuit of excellence. Sports should teach us to set aside our egos and self-aggrandizing behaviors like bragging and putting others down. Sports should teach us to work hard for a worthy goal and to accept both victory and defeat with class.

#7 THE MARK OF A TRUE CHAMPION

Anybody can feel confident and be positive when things are going great. It takes no special talent, discipline or grit to smile and feel motivated when you're on top.

However, the mark of a true champion lies in how you handle the down times. It's in those times when you feel discouraged, hopeless and unmotivated that the seeds of true greatness reside.

How you react to and manage your failures, disappointments, performance slumps and plateaus will ultimately determine whether you'll be a success or a failure in anything that you attempt, on or off the playing fields.

#8 BEING HARD ON YOURSELF IS A "LOSING GAME"

Putting yourself down when you fail or make mistakes will NOT make you a better athlete. ON THE CONTRARY! Responding to your failings with frustration and self-directed anger will only tighten you up and ultimately shut your game down. Playing angry in this way will get you performing at a small percentage of your potential.  

Instead, you need to learn to respond to yourself the way a good coach would. You have to be able to forgive yourself for your failings and mistakes. You have to learn to treat yourself with patience and kindness whenever you fail rather than impatience and meanness. Beating yourself up for your shortcomings will ultimately kill your motivation and joy of the sport and once you lose those two, you’re lost!

#9 THE FOUR LETTER SECRET TO SUCCESS

Got a dream that you want to turn into a reality? GREAT!!!! Then, roll up your sleeves, shut your mouth and get to work!!!! Meaningful success on and off the field can only be yours if you are willing to tenaciously work for it! You've got to pay your physical dues in order to make it happen and when you're done paying, then you need to pay some more!!!!

#10 ATHLETES: WHAT'S REALLY IMPORTANT IN SPORTS

Winning is NOT what is really important.

Being "better"/ranked higher is NOT what's really important.

Being the starter or team star is NOT what's really important.

What IS REALLY important is WHO you are and HOW you are in the process of the competition. That is,

Having CHARACTER,

Being a TEAM PLAYER,

LIFTING the level of your teammates' play

Being HONEST & TRUSTWORTHY,

Playing FAIR,

Pursuing EXCELLENCE and WORKING HARD in everything you do,

Being a LEADER, regardless of whether you are the captain or not,

Meeting both VICTORY & DEFEAT with dignity and grace,

Being a great ROLE MODEL,

Interacting with all others with RESPECT,

This is what is REALLY IMPORTANT in sports!

 

Dr. G. Peak Performance

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