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Want Your Daughter To Be A Science Whiz? Soccer Might Help
smart soccer science


Very few girls get the recommended 60 minutes of exercise daily. But physical activity could help with school, a study says.

Girls who were more physically active at age 11 did better at school as teenagers, a study finds. And the most active girls really aced science.

It's become pretty much a given that children do better academically when they get regular exercise, even though schools continue to cut or even eliminate recess time. But there's surprisingly little hard evidence to back that up.

This investigation used data from a British study that has been following the health of a large group of parents and children since 1991. They measured almost 5,000 children's physical activity at age 11 by having them wear an acclerometer for a week.

Few of the children were getting the recommended 60 minutes a day of moderate to vigorous exercise. Boys clocked 29 minutes a day on average, while girls managed just 18 minutes.

The more active the 11-year-olds were, the better they did on standardized school tests of English, math and science.

The surprise was that physically active girls were much better at science than their peers. That held true for five years, when the children took other standardized tests at age 13 and 16.

"We're not sure why that would be," Josie Booth, a lecturer in developmental psychology at the University of Dundee and lead author of the study, told Shots. It could be important, given that both Europe and the United States are trying hard to get more girls involved in science. "It could obviously be a chance finding," Booth adds. "We'd like to have a chance to look further into it."

The researchers did adjust the results to account for factors that could affect school performance, including birth weight, current weight, a mother's smoking while pregnant and the family's socioeconomic situation. The results were published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine.

This study doesn't prove that the increased exercise was what improved the children's test scores, but parents aren't off base in thinking that it could help. Randomized controlled trials have shown that exercise improves brain function in older people, and a few studies have shown that in children, too.

Until Booth or other scientists can manage a randomized trial on girls, exercise and science, we'll have to just hope that bicycling or running will help our daughters become future Nobelists. (I'll hold off on booking my ticket to Stockholm for the awards ceremony.)

"There's certainly an association between more physical activity and better academic achievement," Booth says. "If parents can get their children to meet that goal of 60 minutes a day, it's going to be beneficial for a range of factors."

From Off the Pitch which is the weekly newsletter of the National Soccer Coaches Association of America

Youth Soccer
Parents Youth Soccer article

Kids love soccer because it is FUN!!!!

-From a very early age children love to play with a ball.

-Soccer is a simple game, played with a ball, where you have teammates and a few simple rules.

“Real Soccer…equals 2 Feet + 1 Ball…The rest is your Imagination.”

The basic rules for soccer are that you share the ball with your teammates; you try and keep the ball away from your opponents and score a goal; you must play fairly; and everyone gets a chance to play with the ball.

 Basic Soccer Equipment for parents:

-A comfortable lawn chair for games and practices

-Comfortable clothing-Clothing for all weather conditions as well as an umbrella in case of rain.

-An enthusiastic and positive attitude.

-A sense of humor.

Why Do Players Play? (From US Youth Soccer Education Program)

To have fun.

To be with their friends.

To make new friends.

To improve and learn.

To feel good.

To wear the stuff.

Obviously, winning did not make the list of reasons why our kids play, so as parents it is vital that we make our reasons for supporting them the same as their reasons for playing.

What a Supportive Parent Looks Like:

Be sure to base your support and encouragement not on their level of success but on the fact that you love and support them for who they are.

Leave the coaching to the coaches and stay away from criticizing coaching decisions and strategies.

Continually emphasize the importance of your child having respect for themselves, the referees, their coaches, teammates, and opponents. Make sure you practice what you preach!!!

At all costs, avoid putting pressure on children about playing time and performance.

What Does Your Child Need To Play?

-A soccer ball: each child should have an age appropriate ball that they bring to practice.

-Shin Guards: These are required for all practices and games and should protect the shin and ankle.

-Soccer Shoes(cleats): The studs or cleats must be rubber, metal, or molded plastic and they must be round.

-Shirts, Shorts, and Socks: Soccer socks go over the shin guards (many players wear two pairs of socks).

-A Water Bottle: It is important to have fresh water available.

Now that your child is ready to play, there are a few guidelines that will make it a great experience for you and your child!!!

Guidelines for Soccer Parents: (From US Youth Soccer Education Program)

Have reasonable expectations.


Relax and let them play.

Yelling Directions = Distraction.

Communicate with the coaches.

“The greatest gift that you can give to your children throughout their sporting involvement is support. When asked what it is that they would most like from their parents in terms of support, most children suggest encouragement and acceptance of their choices.” Australian Sports Commission

“Adult spectators, coaches, and league administrators are guests at the children’s games. We are guests because if no adult attended, our hosts, the children, could still have a game.” Douglas Abrams; University of Missouri-Columbia Law School

Four Emotional Needs of Players (Douglas Abrams; Villanova Sports Journal, 2002)

-Children have four basic emotional needs in organized sports.

1. To play without unhealthy pressure to win imposed by parents and coaches.

2. To be treated like children, not miniature professionals.

3. Adult role models whose sportsmanlike behavior helps make participation fun.

4. To play without adult imposed pressure for financial gain inspired by professional or big-time collegiate sports.

Signs That You Are Taking Soccer Too Seriously:

You are nervous before your child’s game.

You have a difficult time recovering from a game your child has lost.

You make mental notes during a game so that you can give your child advice during the drive home.

You become verbally critical of an official.

Top Reasons Players Quit:

Criticism and yelling

No playing time

Over emphasis on winning

Poor communication

Fear of making mistakes


“Most children play to have fun and be with their friends. They do not play to entertain the adults, boost the adults’ egos or improve the family’s social status in the community.” Douglas Abrams; Villanova Sports Journal, 2002

We are excited about what is in store for your child as they experience first-hand why soccer is known as the beautiful game. We hope that this is only the beginning of many wonderful experiences for both you and your child playing the game of soccer. We will see you on the field!!!!

Helping My Child Learn
How can I use televised soccer games to help my child learn?  --  By Tim Nash

In any sport, watching the best players perform is an outstanding way to learn the finer points of the game. Watching an NBA player take a jump shot, an NFL lineman throw a block or a shortstop field a grounder can teach proper technique. Seeing a basketball team run an offense or a football team execute a play can illustrate systems and strategies. And soccer is no different.

There is plenty to learn from watching high level soccer players perform their craft, especially for young players. Televised games are the most readily accessible and a match on TV can be a great teaching tool, if you know what to watch.

First, though, you have to come up with a few tidbits to get the youngster interested and willing to sit down and pay attention to the game. Read up on the teams and players and you’ll find a great deal of reasons for your child to become a fan. Don’t expect your child to sit down and examine all 90 minutes at first. Start them out with doses, maybe the first half. But be sure to tape the game, so later you can examine the highlights.

Here’s three general areas to look for when watching a game with a your child or a group of young players.

Given the way soccer games are shown on TV – a lot of tight shots on individuals and replays – there are plenty of chances to examine the skills of the best players in the world. Perhaps the most important thing for youngsters to watch is the way players trap or settle the ball. It’s called their “first touch,” and it is the most important skill a player can have. The best players have great first touches, because their first touch on the ball enables them to prepare the ball for their second touch – whether it is a pass, a shot or a dribble.

Point out to your child how the players are thinking ahead when the ball is coming to them and how their first touch rarely just stops the ball at their feet. It is prepared to their right or left, so they can play the ball easily and efficiently with their next touch.

Another skill that is easy to see on television is the simple act of kicking the ball properly. If you ever have a chance to see Tony Meola take a goal kick, be sure to notice and comment on the ease in which he actually strikes the ball. He approaches the ball with a few well-placed steps, kicks it effortlessly with outstanding technique and watches the ball sail well over midfield. This is a great lesson for kids who wildly run at the ball and try to smack it will all their might. Technique is everything and Meola – and hundreds of other pros – have technique worthy of being emulated.

Heading is another skill that can be honed from watching TV. Pros generally all have good heading technique. Watch how they attack the ball and don’t let it just bounce off their heads. Pay attention to the part of their head with which they strike the ball and how they snap their upper bodies or necks.

Be sure to catch the opening minutes of the telecast when the announcers are going over the lineups. Make note of what formation each team is playing – a 4-4-2 or a 3-5-2 or perhaps a 4-5-1. Televised games generally have a fair amount of camera shots from above, giving you the opportunity to see how the players are arranged on the field. Spend the first few minutes identifying the defenders, midfielders and forwards in the system a team is playing.

It’s important to do this early, because once the game begins it will be harder to tell what players are playing what positions. If you are able to match players with their positions early in the game, you have a great opportunity to examine the flow of the game.

If the announcers has told you a team is playing a 4-4-2 (four defenders, four midfielders and two forwards) but you swear it looks like there are five defenders, you have noticed an important trend in the flow of the game. The 4-4-2 team is not being successful moving the ball up field and are being pinned in their own end. On the other hand, if the announcers told you the other team is playing with two forwards, but you just saw four players in their opponent’s penalty area, good things are happening for that team.

Off-the-ball movement is an important part of the game and is best examined watching a game in person. However, there are several ways to learn about how to make runs and supportive movement when watching a game on TV.

The best time to look for movement is when a player has the ball at his feet and doesn’t seem to have anywhere to pass it. Who moves to help him? Where did they move to? How many players moved? Good possession teams always have someone in position to provide an outlet pass. Identify them and point them out to your child.

You can also look for players who made runs but didn’t get the ball. Many young players will only make a run if they think they can get the ball. But pros know that just by making a run to the corner, or moving out of a space in which they are standing, they are opening it up for teammate to get the ball. Watch how players “check in” and “check out” by moving into a space to provide a passing option, waiting, then moving out to another space.

You can point out to you child how two things are always happening. Players are creating space and moving into space created by others.

The top of the television screen is great place to look for off-the-ball movement, because the players at the top of the screen are rarely directly involved in the play, but they will be moving. And if you’re lucky, you will see the start of a run that results in a shot or a goal a short time later.

Tips to Get Your Kids Involved

As you watch the game, ask questions like “Why do you think he did that? Why didn’t he do this?” Make them think. Point out how a great first touch enabled a player to run past a defender, or how a pass led someone perfectly. And be prepared to answer questions. If you don’t know the answer, say “Let’s remember to ask your coach about that.”

Find an article about the game you watched and read what the coaches and players had to say about it. Many times a goal-scorer will explain the whole sequence of the play that led to the goal. Then, if you recorded the game, you can go back and see for yourself.

Don’t overwhelm your child with an abundance of information. If they come away with one or two bits of knowledge or one move they want to perfect, it was well worth the time.

After the game, go outside and work on something you learned.

Make it enjoyable for both of you. It’s important that your child wants to watch a game with or without you again.

©RMG3 2003

How parents can help!
How Parents Can Help the Player to Perform at the Highest Level

- by Ric Granryd, Director of Coaching, ...

The 6 Things Parents Should Say to Their Sports Player

by Bruce Brownlee, University of Georgia

A lot of soccer parents with good intentions give a 30 minute lecture, covering all the players supposed deficiencies and giving playing advice, in the car on the way to each match. The kids arrive far off their optimal mental state, and dreading the critique they are likely to hear, whether they want it or not, on the way home. Kids who are massaged in this way tend not to play badly, they just tend to not play, possibly to avoid making mistakes.

For best results, parents should memorize and use the following:

Before the Match

1. I love you
2. Good luck
3. Have fun

After the Match

1. I love you
2. It was great to see you play
3. What would you like to eat?




"The Messenger" ; > )
At one point during a game, the coach called one of his 7-year-old soccer players aside and asked her    .    .    .

"Do you understand what cooperation is? What a team is?"

The little girl nodded in the affirmative.

"Do you understand that what matters is whether we win or lose together as a team?"

The little girl nodded yes.

"So," the coach continued, "I'm sure you know, when a foul is called, you shouldn't argue, curse, attack the referee, or call him a butt-head. Do you understand all that?"

Again the little girl nodded.

He continued, "And when I take you out of the game so another girl gets a chance to play, it's not good sportsmanship to call your coach a dumb nitwit is it?''

Again the little girl nodded.

"Good," said the coach. "Now go over there and explain all that to your parents."

What’s all that noise from the sidelines?

 Dr. Alan Goldberg - -

(Loud adult noise from the sidelines) “Shoot the ball! Kick it! Come on 'insert the name of your child'; for God’s sake shoot it! The child who’s related to the voice nervously tries to pass the ball to their nearest teammate but instead, it awkwardly dribbles off the side of their foot out of bounds. The child’s parent is now yelling.) “What the heck’s wrong with you? What are you doing? I said shoot it! Do it like I showed you! Now don’t be lazy! Move your butt and go get that ball back! (The child looks miserable and quickly glances over to the sidelines at thier parent before they hang their head and run after the ball. A few minutes later an opposing player cleanly tackles the child and takes the ball away from them. The referee’s whistle is silent. The parent explodes at the official.) “Are you blind or what? Where’s the foul? How can you not call anything there? That’s a yellow card, ref! How can you not see that? (The referee trots over to the parent and tells them to calm down. The parent doesn’t back down). “I wouldn’t be complaining if you just did your job!” (The referee glares at the parent and warns them to keep their mouth shut otherwise he will have them removed from the game. Suddenly it has become very quiet on the field as the game comes to an abrupt halt. The child and a number of players from both teams stop and watch the altercation. The child seems to be cringing in embarrassment, looking for a way to disappear…. Just another FUN day on the soccer field!)

In theory, soccer is supposed to be an enjoyable “game” organized for and played by kids. Its’ purpose is to teach game skills, tactics and a love for physical activity. In addition, and when in the hands of appropriate adults, soccer provides its’ young participants with a whole host of valuable life learning experiences like hard work as a vehicle for success, teamwork, good sportsmanship, healthy competition, mastering adversity in the pursuit of a goal and utilizing failure constructively, all of which are geared towards building self-confidence and leaving the child feeling better about himself. In theory!

Unfortunately, as the above scenario all too commonly illustrates, the reality of today’s youth soccer experience is vastly different. Misguided adults, both parents and coaches are inadvertently and selfishly distracting the child-athlete from what’s really important and, in the process, killing their joy for the sport. Parents like the child above, who get too caught up in the game’s outcome, who pressure their kids to perform, who are overly critical and demeaning when they make mistakes, insure that their child will consistently play way below her potential, seriously jeopardize the parent-child relationship and increase the likelihood that their child will soon become a sports drop-out statistic.

There’s no question that the vast majority of parents mean well and want their children to be happy and successful. Towards this end, they are willing to sacrifice their time, energy and financial resources taxiing their kids to and from practices, getting them additional training, volunteering for team and club functions and spending countless hours on the sidelines at tournaments and games. Unfortunately, far too many parents do not know exactly what they should and shouldn’t be doing to be the most helpful. Despite having positive intentions and their child’s best interests at heart, these parents say and do things before, during and after games that distract the child from focusing on the actual game, increase their anxiety level and, as a consequence, sabotage their overall level of play.

So just how important is it for you as a parent that your child has a positive, enriching experience in this sport? Do you really want your son or daughter to perform to their potential? Are you truly interested in seeing smiles out there during games instead of tears and unhappiness? If your answer to these questions is a resounding “YES!” then there are very specific things that you can do as a parent to make these things happen. Your role in relation to your child’s soccer is absolutely critical in determining the quality of their experience. If you adopt the appropriate behaviors and play the right role, then you will ensure that soccer brings a smile to your child’s face and joy to his heart. If you play the wrong role and act like the parent above, then you’ll end up making a significant contribution to your child’s unhappiness and heartache.

So what’s the right role? First and foremost your main “job” is to be your child’s best fan. You need to be unconditionally supportive. If your child is having a bad game, then they need your love and support far more than when she’s playing out of her mind. After a tough loss or a poor outing they need you to be positive, compassionate and loving. Providing feedback on what they did wrong or expressing your disappointment in their play is NOT what they need and will only serve to make a painful situation much worse.

Along these lines, love and support does NOT mean that you coach from the sidelines. In fact, the VERY WORST THING that you as a parent can do is to “coach” from the sidelines. What’s coaching? Offering “helpful” advice and strategy before and during the game, telling your child what to do and where to go, criticizing their play and getting angry with them when they make mistakes are all examples of off-limit, exceedingly destructive parental behaviors. After game critiquing is another example of VERY destructive parental coaching behavior. Understand that you are NOT helping your child when you coach. You will NOT get them to play better. You are NOT motivating them, even if you know the game and that’s your intention! On the contrary! Coaching and critiquing from the sidelines will distract your child from the flow of the game, make him more nervous, kill their enjoyment and, as a consequence, insure that they will consistently play badly. In addition, keep in mind that your “helpful” sideline comments are most often experienced by your child as an embarrassment! Coaching behaviors are only appropriate from the coaches, NOT the parents.

Instead, parents should smile from the sidelines, cheer for good execution regardless of which side it comes from, and encourage fair play and good sportsmanship. This means that you as a parent need to model appropriate, mature behaviors during the game. Yelling at your child, his teammates or theopponents is NOT mature, appropriate behavior. Loudly critiquing the officiating is NOT mature or appropriate either. It is NOT your job to critique the referees. Regardless of how well you may know this game, your calls are not better than the referees’. Excuse me, but you are just a tad bit biased in this situation! Loudly complaining to the ref every time he makes a “bad call” is not only an embarrassment to your child, but it’s quite selfish on your part. It takes the focus of the game off of the kids where it belongs and puts it on YOU. Remember, soccer is about the kids, NOT the adults.

Along these same lines it is NOT appropriate for you to spend your sideline time grumbling to other parents about your team’s coaches and the playing or tactical decisions that they make. If you have a problem with the coaches then deal with them at an appropriate time and place, NOT just before, during or right after a game. What they need from you is your support and help, NOT your disdain and criticism.

Finally, try to act on the sidelines in a way that would make your son or daughter proud to have you as a parent. Remember, your child is not the only one that’s performing during the game. You are also a performer and the quality of theirexperience is in your hands. Conduct yourself in such a way that you clearly communicate to your child and those around you that this is just a game forchildren, played by children. That is, you need to keep the proper perspective at all times. If there are other parents around you who are unable to maintain this kind of perspective, notify the team’s coach or league officials. It’s not your job to get in the face of another parent for misbehaving. Let the coach or parent boardeducate them at the next parents’ meeting.

Remember, soccer is a wonderful vehicle to help your children learn valuable life lessons. Do your part to insure that the lessons that they learn are constructive and positive.

A Father’s Letter to his Daughter
From the beginning, it was apparent to me that your athletic career would be a good one.

When you were only five-a chubby, shy, little girl who tried hard to keep up with the other players-I began to see those characteristics that would lead you to excellence. You never quit, and you never stopped kicking the ball. Day in, day out: kick...kick...kick. You were far from the best player on the field, but your love of the game kept you working.

Now you are becoming a young woman, and you have risen to the top of your sport with many team and individual triumphs. And I realize that we are walking this athletics road together for the next number of years. I also realize that our walk will not be unlike the walk of other excelling athletes and their parents as we move our children along to adulthood. Whether the sport is football, basketball, gymnastics, soccer or whatever-it's all the same experience.

And as your father, it is my desire that through this athletic experience you develop something so much more important than athletic prowess--and that is character.

Character is not difficult to define. We all know it when we see it. The big question for us as parents is how do we develop it in our children. We know that daily instruction is important, and we all know we must lead with example; it's the thing we as parents do every day of our lives that help to mold you into a decent human being.

But there must be more to it than that, because we all know of parents who are the very definition of goodness and character, and yet raise children who have no clue as to the meaning of character. So we have to suffice it to say that there is an intangible here. One that says that no matter what we do as parents, you have to make the choices in life that ultimately will determine and define your character.
Let me tell you what I see.

I see kindness. You are the one that passes the ball to the worst player in gym class to make sure they are included. You are the one who sets up the poorest shooter in basketball to make sure they feel part of the team. And you are the one in soccer who instructs, cajoles and encourages your teammates. That is character.
You are not a braggart. Your recent triumph of being selected to the Regional Olympic Development soccer brought you a lot of publicity and recognition, yet you played it down, and you were careful to direct attention away from yourself and back to your teammates. You are a total team player. That is character.

You behave on the field. Winning or losing, you keep your language and actions clean. I have never seen you take a "cheap shot" at another player. You have been singled out by other teams and players to receive a good pounding to try to take you out of the game, but you always maintain your dignity. You are the player on the team who checks the condition of an opponent who is down with injury on the field. That is character.

You are sensitive and vigilantly aware of your teammates. That has gained you their respect, which is something not easily obtained. But your sensitivity has also opened you up to an aspect of athletics that has been difficult and hurtful to you. You are learning some things and experiencing some things that I did not understand until adulthood.

You are learning about jealously and egos, and you have felt the onslaught of those who would rather attack you and tear you down that celebrate your accomplishments with you. And I think what has been particularly hurtful for you has been people you consider friends, both kids and adults, who have been part of that group. You are learning at an early age that our society is becoming selfish, and we hate what we don't have. It is a sad truth, but one you are beginning to understand and deal with. Above it all, you have kept your head and vision clear. That is character.

You have guts. I have watched you play with blistered feet, with bruised and battered legs, totally exhausted from the heat and effort. I can see that you are down to your last reserves of energy, and that you would like nothing else than to exit the game and rest. But you don't. Your team is in a battle and you won't quit. That is character.

God gives us all special talents and abilities. You were given a physical gift that allows you to compete at a higher level. You can do with it what you want. You can take it as far as you want to go. But above it all, I know that through the journey, you will always maintain your dignity and be recognized as a man of character.
Parents love their children. Your mother and I would love you no matter what you did or how you did it. You, however, have made it easy.

I remain always,

Your Father

--Reprinted from South Dakota Sports Magazine

A Kid's Letter to Parents
Dear Mom and Dad,

I hope you won't get mad at me for writing this letter, but you always told me never to keep anything back that ought to be brought out into the open. So here goes...

Remember the other morning when my team was playing and both of you were sitting and watching? Well, I hope that you won't get mad at me, but you kind of embarrassed me. Remember when I went after the ball in front of the goal trying to score, and fell? I could hear you yelling at the defender for getting in my way and tripping me. It wasn't her fault. That is what she is supposed to do. Then, do you remember yelling at me to get over and cover Pat's man? Well the coach told me to cover someone else and I wouldn't if I listened to you. While I tried to decide, they scored against us. Then you yelled at me for being in the wrong place. You shouldn't have jumped all over the coach for pulling me off the field. He is a pretty good coach and a good guy, and he knows what he is doing. He is coming down at all hours of the day helping us kids just because he loves sports. Then, neither of you spoke to me the whole way home. I guess you were pretty sore at me for not scoring a goal. I tried awfully hard, but I guess I am a crummy soccer player. But, I love the game, it's lots of fun being with the other kids and learning to compete. It is a good sport, but how can I learn if you don't show me a good example? And anyhow, I thought I was playing soccer for fun, to have a good time, and to learn good sportsmanship. I didn't know that you were going to get so upset because I couldn't become a star.


Your soccer player

Touchlines Rules for Spectators (Parents are Spectators)

 Rule No. 1: Keep POSITIVE support, encouragement, cheer leading and general screaming and hollering to a MAXIMUM on the touchlines. 

When the players are working hard, they need and deserve everyone's best POSITIVE encouragement and support. They need to know you're there and that their effort is appreciated. Most teams have a tough enough time developing a sense of teamwork and achievement at the same time the players are gaining experience and skill. They DO NOT need to hear YOUR anxiety piled on top of their own when the game is going poorly. If you really want to make things worse, crank your voice up a few notches and shout "Get it outta there!"

Rule No. 2: DO NOT CRITICIZE referees or players of either team for any reason.

If the referees really ARE doing poorly, they may get angry or offended by critical spectators and that may make things tougher for the team. If they are good at what they do, they will ignore you, or perhaps ask you to leave the field. Either situation is at best distracting and at worst reflects poorly on the team's overall sportsmanship.

Publicly criticizing players on your team can really hurt team morale. They will already have an EXCELLENT idea what their weaknesses are from their coaches and teammates. They will not need reminders from their families, friends and other spectators.

The players for the other team are also trying hard and in truth are probably no meaner or nastier than players from your team. Criticism is simply poor sportsmanship and leads to unnecessary bad feelings on and off the field. The unfortunate spectacle of a supposed adult shouting insults at a child on a soccer field is merely disgusting. Soccer is a game, not a war.

Rule No. 3: Don't coach players from the touchlines, or for that matter while THEY are on the touchlines.

In most leagues, coaching from the sidelines is frowned on, and rightly so. Soccer is different from most sports in the US, because it is a game of the players. Coaches are supposed to intrude as little as possible.

If you feel a child is not doing what should be done, tell the coaches, not the player. As parents occasionally discover, a player may be doing EXACTLY what the coaches have instructed. Either way, a parent can help a player's athletic development much better working together with the coaches, not independently.

Rule No. 4: Give the players, coaches and referees room to work.
Many organizations have rules which require that spectators on the touchlines stay in an area between the penalty boxes, and keep all parts of their bodies (even outstretched feet) at least one yard behind the touchline. Do not crowd the touchlines for any reason and stay away from the goal area to avoid interfering with those involved in the game.

Rule No. 5: Remember, IT'S ONLY A GAME.

Don't forget, YOUR attitude on the touchlines can affect the mood and success of the team. If the coaches think that your touchlines activity is hurting team performance in any way, they should promptly advise you, hopefully without ruffling any of your feathers. Be tolerant. Emotions run high during games, and feelings are easily hurt.

Nevertheless, any spectator, whether parent, friend or player, who persists in inappropriate touchlines behavior after being warned by the coaches should be asked to leave the vicinity of the field. Coaches should not argue with parents at the game. If YOU want to talk about the game, call the coaches later at home or get them aside after the game.

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The FA Respect Guide Videos

Excellent English FA's Respect videos for parents and carers. They are hard hitting, true to life and demonstrate parents' behaviours and its impact on the player. You can see them at:

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"Coaches build teams, parents build players."    -Charles Smyth 


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